The Tale of Two Heroes: Jael and David

In our quest for a biblical humanity that lives according to God's will, we often place men in one category and women in another. Protecting is one of those categories. We are told that men were created to protect women, and the military is often given as the supreme manifestation of this protection. Some go so far as to claim that our marriages should reflect the military life; the husband is seen as the general that commands the private.

But when we leaf through the Bible, we find examples of civilians who conquered military figures and by doing so saved the whole nation. Two such examples are found in David and Jael. 

David was a young man when he defeated the Philistine Goliath with a sling (1 Sam 17).

Jael used stealth to kill Sisera, the Canaanite warlord, with a tent peg in her own tent (Judges 4).

Both were praised for their heroic actions that saved the entire nation. Just hear the words of the song of victory, sung by Deborah and Barak:

 

"Most blessed of women be Jael,
the wife of Heber the Kenite,
most blessed of tent-dwelling women. 
He asked for water, and she gave him milk;
in a bowl fit for nobles she brought him curdled milk. 
Her hand reached for the tent peg,
her right hand for the workman's hammer.
She struck Sisera, she crushed his head,
she shattered and pierced his temple. 
At her feet he sank,
he fell; there he lay.
At her feet he sank, he fell;
where he sank, there he fell-dead. 
(Judges 5:24-27, NIV)

Most blessed?

A woman who kills the enemy is most blessed? 

This reminds me of another woman who was also considered most blessed:

When Elizabeth heard Mary's greeting, the baby leaped in her womb, and Elizabeth was filled with the Holy Spirit. In a loud voice she exclaimed: "Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the child you will bear!... And Mary said: "My soul glorifies the Lord and my spirit rejoices in God my Savior, for he has been mindful of the humble state of his servant. From now on all generations will call me blessed, for the Mighty One has done great things for me - holy is his name ( Luke 1:41-42, 46-49, NIV).

At first glance we might say, of course she was blessed, she was about to become a mother, the proper "role" for all women. But when we spend just a moment longer, we realize that Mary was considered blessed because her child was the Messiah, who would save the people. 

Women have always stood with God against evil, and they haven't shunned doing whatever it took to protect others, whether their actions conformed with convention or not. Just consider: a married woman who acted alone, and an engaged woman who got pregnant out of wedlock. They weren't exactly prime examples of proper behavior. But then again, God has never cared what sinful humans think is proper, for propriety is too often used as a guise for evil; that which is improper in our eyes aligns often with that which is good. Hence our categories, formed as they are through culture, stand often against God and his plan of salvation. Lucky us, not everyone follows convention.

God Is Not Your Boss

I'm sure you have heard by now a husband being compared to a supervisor and the wife to an employee, or something similar that gives the man authority.

Well, I've got news to you, God isn't your boss. 

For a husband to be a supervisor in a marriage, God would have to be our boss, but if God is our boss, salvation is by works, and not by grace:

Now when a man works, his wages are not credited to him as a gift, but as an obligation. However, to the man who does not work but trusts God who justifies the wicked, his faith is credited as righteousness (Rom 4:4-5 NIV).

Are we willing to give up grace in order to give husbands authority over their wives? And how about this idea: without free will there is no salvation.  

If the woman was created to obey the man, she has no free will and can therefore not choose salvation. 

Again, if the husband is to his wife what Christ is for the church, the wife must have free will.

Have you not heard the following:

"God respects our free will to such a degree that he will never force us to do anything."

"You have a free will, you can choose God or reject salvation."

"But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says: "God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble." Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. 8 Come near to God and he will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded." (Jas 4:6-9, NIV)

We can resist God, or submit to God, we have that choice. Why doesn't a wife?